In loving memory of our son

 

Jamie Reginald Derek Clark

 

26 - 11 - 1990   to   26 - 11 - 2008

I'll Lend You For a Little Time


I'll lend you for a little time,
a child of mine, He said,
For you to love while he lives,
and mourn for when he is dead.
It may be six or seven years,
or twenty-two or three,
But will you,till I call him back,
take care of him for me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you,
and shall his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories
as solace for your grief.
I cannot promise he will stay,
since all from earth return.
But there are lessons taught down there
I want this child to learn.
I've looked the wide world over
in my search for teachers true.

And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,
I have selected you.
Now will you give him all your love,
nor think the labor vain,
Nor hate me when when I come to call,
or take him back again?
I fancied that I hear them say,
Dear Lord Thy will be done.
For all the joy Thy child shall bring,
the risk of grief we'll run.
We'll Shelter him with tenderness,
we'll love him while we may;
And for the happiness we've known,
will ever grateful stay.
But shall the angles call for him
much sooner than we planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes,
and try to understand.

TORMENT OVER SON'S DEATH

by ADRIAN JENKINS

 

 

A GRIEF-STRICKEN father has told of his devastation following the death of his 'vulnerable' son who was found hanged on his 18th birthday.
 

 

Derek Clark, of Salisbury Avenue, Winshill, opened his heart six weeks after the body of Jamie Clark, a 'caring, intelligent and extrovert' character whose life was scarred by behavioural problems, was found dead in his YMCA flat near Burton Town Hall.
Mr Clark, 55, said he was frustrated with the police's reluctance to explain the mysterious circumstances surrounding his son's death, and prosecutors' decision not to pursue a manslaughter charge against a former suspect.

He claims that Jamie would still be alive today had the agencies involved in his care, which had extended offers of help since his death, done more to meet his needs during his lifetime.

Mr Clark said: "I'm devastated. I just want the door to open and I want Jamie to come back. I miss him. He was not only my son, he was my friend. I could talk to him and he could talk to me. I loved him.

"A couple of times I've thought 'I just want to join Jamie', but I've got my daughter to consider and I'm not that silly."  Jamie, the son of Mr Clark and his now estranged wife, Tracy, 45, was born deaf, a condition which triggered aggression and frustration and ensured he would never attend a mainstream school.  Jamie was later diagnosed with ADHD attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, attention deficit disorder and oppositional defiant disorder - conditions which led to his treatment with the controversial medication Ritalin.

 

Unable to remain with his parents or at special schools because of his 'challenging' behaviour, Jamie was sectioned 'voluntarily' at 14 after going on the rampage at home.
However, children's homes and even a secure unit were unable to support him, and he moved into a flat in Rugeley before being forced to move into his father's home after it was broken into and trashed. He then moved to the YMCA complex.

Little more than a week after moving in, and only six weeks before he was due to start a management course at Burton College, Jamie was found dead.

Mr Clark, who has never been allowed to visit the scene of his son's death, claims police have refused to clarify the circumstances surrounding his son's apparently 'unsuspicious' death.

He said: "They won't tell me anything. I'm really peeved because I'm not getting what I want. I want answers to my questions and it's very, very hard.

"I'm tired and not sleeping. I've got medical problems - diabetes, heart problems and high blood pressure - and just want to get things sorted."

Mr Clark, who has yet to receive a date for the inquest into Jamie's death, is planning to take legal advice in a bid to overturn the Crown Prosecution Service's decision not to pursue a manslaughter charge connected to the case.


The funeral will be held at 12.45pm on Friday at St Mark's Church, in Winshill, followed by cremation at Bretby Crematorium.